Pet peeves and the best traits

Have you ever thought about what really annoys you about certain people? 

Like, imagine one of your favourite people in the world? You love spending time with them, in fact you go out of your way to hang out with them and then BANG: They start to do something that really annoys you. Something that you never noticed about them until you started to get to know them properly. This is something that I started to think about today whilst I was in work. I thought I would share a few of these with readers today. I'm going to do my favourite traits in people aswell (please note the title) just so this post isnt too negative. 

Im also going to stick a little recommendation at the bottom of this post from a band called Photo Finish. Theyre super good and kind of remind me of a mix of All Time Low and early Fall Out Boy. 

Pet peeves:

1. selfishness - Ok, so in a past blog post i've said before that a bit of selfishness is necessary and I still stick to that but when it comes to people suffering for you being a selfish twat, thats when I start to get annoyed and angry. At some stage, theres got to be a point where you have to say to yourself, "Christ, maybe I need to start considering changing myself because other people are getting upset because of how I act?" Right? 

2. Shouting - This isnt just something that annoys me from others, honestly I do it myself and I just think "WHY KIRSTEN? WHY DO YOU FEEL THE NEED TO SHOUT?!" Sometimes, I genuinely do it by accident. Like, if you know me and I feel comfortable around you, then we've passed the stage where I probably will get overly loud and I probably need a kick in the shins to calm me down. However, when other people do it, especially when I'm in a bad mood then all I want to do is walk away from you and not talk to you for a couple of days. 

3. Blokes that rub themselves up against you or touch you inappropriately in clubs - Its sleazy and disgusting and any guy that does it needs a punch in the nose. Why do guys think its ok to grind against a girls bum when they're just trying to have a nice time. By all means dance with a girl, im not saying thats a bad thing. But, then the guy is behind there girl full on thrusting against their arse, it gets tedious and makes me feel slightly sick. Its extremely presumptuous and frankly pretty minging. 

4. People who take forever to text back - Ok, I understand some people are busy and sometimes I have to remind myself of that but if you're in the middle of a conversation then either tell the recipient that you're busy or don't carry on a conversation with them until you're free. I swear there is nothing worse than waiting for a reply to a text that just says "How are you?" or maybe even "Whats up?" those types of texts need minimal replying to, and takes 2 seconds. If I can make the effort, then why cant you buddy?

5. People who talk with their mouths full - I do not want half of your mouthful of food in front of me because you've spat it at me during your sentence. Use the manners you were brought up with and swallow before you speak, even if it takes a couple of seconds. The person you're speaking to isnt going to mind.

Favourite traits

1.  Honesty - people who tell the truth are the best people to keep around simply because you know where you are with them at all times. I hate people who play games. It kind of breaks my tiny little heart

2. Enthusiasm - I think enthusiasm for a specific thing is so so cute! Like, if a person is excited about something and you're on those people that try to take the piss because theyre excited, then you are a seriously bad person. 

I think im going to leave it there for traits and annoyances. 

However, as promised.

Here is the link for Photo Finishes sound cloud. Please go and take a gander, they released their first song called "I dont think that means what you think it means" and their cover of All Time Low's "Time Bomb" 

https://soundcloud.com/photofinishband 

Thats all for now, folks.

TTYL,

Kirst x

Anxiety sucks.

Hi guys.

 I thought i'd do a little blog on anxiety and the repercussions of it. I've watched a bunch of my friends have several panic/anxiety attacks in my life. However. I've only really understood what they were when I started getting them myself

I've never been a nervous person. Actually, overall I would say I'm quite self-confident person but being put into such a terrifying position of moving away from home and put into a small flat where im expected to make friends with the people im living with clearly changed that.  Just to clarify, for the large part this wasn't an awful thing, im just not very good at making new friends so to be forced into doing such was just like throwing me into the deep end as such.

The reason i'm writing about this is because last night, I was very close to having a panic attack. 

Against my better judgement, I decided to go and see a friend quite late at night. As if that wasnt enough to be nervous, I had to walk to his. He lives at least half an hour away from me for a normal sized person. At one point, I got lost which ended up in me being a stressed mess by the time I reached his. 

For the rest of the night, I genuinely couldnt relax and I dont know why. He said to me "Can you just relax? You being like this is making me feel uneasy and uncomfortable" Sounds like a bit of a douchebag thing to say doesnt it? He was completely unaware to what situation I was in but him saying that made me feel like utter cack , just because me being stressy was making someone I care about feel uncomfortable about being in my presence. After around about an hour of this happening, said person did manage to calm me down, by talking about Spanish people and beer of all things.

A lot of people link anxiety/panic attacks with not being able to breathe or rocking back and forth in a corner, but its so much more than that. I saw this post on tumblr a few weeks a go, and it gave me quite a lot to think about.

There are several things about people that know nothing about anxiety tend to do, and which admittedly, I used to do to people that really bug me out.

DONT:

• Tell the person to calm down; he or she doesnt have that control at that specific point
• Please dont get frustrated with that person, it'll probably make things worse.
• It' takes a long time for someone to get over whatever theyre stressed about for the large part; please dont expect a massive turnaround over night

DOS:

• If that person needs you to sit with them, its not always necessary for you to talk. Just be there. They'll talk if they want to
• Let them know you're there to talk if they need to.
• Get them whatever they need. I once sat up with a drunk friend until 5am because they were having a panic attack. I made her a cup of tea, and sat there.

I hope thats helped some people.

Just to clarify that are so many sites that can help if someone you know, or you yourself is suffering with anxiety.

http://urlmin.com/mind0

http://www.moodjuice.scot.nhs.uk/anxiety.asp

http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Anxiety/Pages/self-help.aspx

TTYL,

Kirst x