Pet peeves and the best traits

Have you ever thought about what really annoys you about certain people? 

Like, imagine one of your favourite people in the world? You love spending time with them, in fact you go out of your way to hang out with them and then BANG: They start to do something that really annoys you. Something that you never noticed about them until you started to get to know them properly. This is something that I started to think about today whilst I was in work. I thought I would share a few of these with readers today. I'm going to do my favourite traits in people aswell (please note the title) just so this post isnt too negative. 

Im also going to stick a little recommendation at the bottom of this post from a band called Photo Finish. Theyre super good and kind of remind me of a mix of All Time Low and early Fall Out Boy. 

Pet peeves:

1. selfishness - Ok, so in a past blog post i've said before that a bit of selfishness is necessary and I still stick to that but when it comes to people suffering for you being a selfish twat, thats when I start to get annoyed and angry. At some stage, theres got to be a point where you have to say to yourself, "Christ, maybe I need to start considering changing myself because other people are getting upset because of how I act?" Right? 

2. Shouting - This isnt just something that annoys me from others, honestly I do it myself and I just think "WHY KIRSTEN? WHY DO YOU FEEL THE NEED TO SHOUT?!" Sometimes, I genuinely do it by accident. Like, if you know me and I feel comfortable around you, then we've passed the stage where I probably will get overly loud and I probably need a kick in the shins to calm me down. However, when other people do it, especially when I'm in a bad mood then all I want to do is walk away from you and not talk to you for a couple of days. 

3. Blokes that rub themselves up against you or touch you inappropriately in clubs - Its sleazy and disgusting and any guy that does it needs a punch in the nose. Why do guys think its ok to grind against a girls bum when they're just trying to have a nice time. By all means dance with a girl, im not saying thats a bad thing. But, then the guy is behind there girl full on thrusting against their arse, it gets tedious and makes me feel slightly sick. Its extremely presumptuous and frankly pretty minging. 

4. People who take forever to text back - Ok, I understand some people are busy and sometimes I have to remind myself of that but if you're in the middle of a conversation then either tell the recipient that you're busy or don't carry on a conversation with them until you're free. I swear there is nothing worse than waiting for a reply to a text that just says "How are you?" or maybe even "Whats up?" those types of texts need minimal replying to, and takes 2 seconds. If I can make the effort, then why cant you buddy?

5. People who talk with their mouths full - I do not want half of your mouthful of food in front of me because you've spat it at me during your sentence. Use the manners you were brought up with and swallow before you speak, even if it takes a couple of seconds. The person you're speaking to isnt going to mind.

Favourite traits

1.  Honesty - people who tell the truth are the best people to keep around simply because you know where you are with them at all times. I hate people who play games. It kind of breaks my tiny little heart

2. Enthusiasm - I think enthusiasm for a specific thing is so so cute! Like, if a person is excited about something and you're on those people that try to take the piss because theyre excited, then you are a seriously bad person. 

I think im going to leave it there for traits and annoyances. 

However, as promised.

Here is the link for Photo Finishes sound cloud. Please go and take a gander, they released their first song called "I dont think that means what you think it means" and their cover of All Time Low's "Time Bomb" 

https://soundcloud.com/photofinishband 

Thats all for now, folks.

TTYL,

Kirst x

Anxiety sucks.

Hi guys.

 I thought i'd do a little blog on anxiety and the repercussions of it. I've watched a bunch of my friends have several panic/anxiety attacks in my life. However. I've only really understood what they were when I started getting them myself

I've never been a nervous person. Actually, overall I would say I'm quite self-confident person but being put into such a terrifying position of moving away from home and put into a small flat where im expected to make friends with the people im living with clearly changed that.  Just to clarify, for the large part this wasn't an awful thing, im just not very good at making new friends so to be forced into doing such was just like throwing me into the deep end as such.

The reason i'm writing about this is because last night, I was very close to having a panic attack. 

Against my better judgement, I decided to go and see a friend quite late at night. As if that wasnt enough to be nervous, I had to walk to his. He lives at least half an hour away from me for a normal sized person. At one point, I got lost which ended up in me being a stressed mess by the time I reached his. 

For the rest of the night, I genuinely couldnt relax and I dont know why. He said to me "Can you just relax? You being like this is making me feel uneasy and uncomfortable" Sounds like a bit of a douchebag thing to say doesnt it? He was completely unaware to what situation I was in but him saying that made me feel like utter cack , just because me being stressy was making someone I care about feel uncomfortable about being in my presence. After around about an hour of this happening, said person did manage to calm me down, by talking about Spanish people and beer of all things.

A lot of people link anxiety/panic attacks with not being able to breathe or rocking back and forth in a corner, but its so much more than that. I saw this post on tumblr a few weeks a go, and it gave me quite a lot to think about.

There are several things about people that know nothing about anxiety tend to do, and which admittedly, I used to do to people that really bug me out.

DONT:

• Tell the person to calm down; he or she doesnt have that control at that specific point
• Please dont get frustrated with that person, it'll probably make things worse.
• It' takes a long time for someone to get over whatever theyre stressed about for the large part; please dont expect a massive turnaround over night

DOS:

• If that person needs you to sit with them, its not always necessary for you to talk. Just be there. They'll talk if they want to
• Let them know you're there to talk if they need to.
• Get them whatever they need. I once sat up with a drunk friend until 5am because they were having a panic attack. I made her a cup of tea, and sat there.

I hope thats helped some people.

Just to clarify that are so many sites that can help if someone you know, or you yourself is suffering with anxiety.

http://urlmin.com/mind0

http://www.moodjuice.scot.nhs.uk/anxiety.asp

http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Anxiety/Pages/self-help.aspx

TTYL,

Kirst x

3 things I know to be true: summer blues

Hi guys! :-)

Im back with another one of these blogs. I thought i'd do a little post about what i've come to realise over the summer. I thought i'd put it out there that im probably going to be blogging a hell of a lot more seeing as i've got a new macbook! It is now my new baby and ive fallen well and truly in love with it. Its making my netflix addiction a hell of a lot worse though seeing as I now have access to a larger screen and american netflix as well as british! 

I've done a few of these posts previously so im just going to link them here - [1] [2] [3]

1. I wasnt born to be in retail.

Over the summer I was blessed to be given a job back where I used to work, except on a concession. Lacoste to be exact. When I say blessed, I genuinely mean it. I honestly dont think I've ever had so much fun working, that includes bar work (which I loved) Im currently covering for my manager who has just had two little boys arrive. Im working 5 days a week and im so glad to not be home sat on my arse. To make things a little bit better, this job is paying for me to go to Amsterdam in January. However, it has reminded me how much I dislike the human race. Customers can be some of the worst people and can 100% spoil my mood. I wish I could say its usually the older generation that are rude, but its usually middle aged people who don't know what the hell manners are. E.G - A lady came in for a refund the other day, she asked me to help, so I told her I could, providing what it was. Her reply "Just a couple of bits" I said to her, "Ok, thats no worries, have you got your receipt?" Baring in mind here - people cannot return ladies wear to mens wear. Everything she had was ladieswear. I told her she actually couldn't return them in the mens section. She politely told me that i should stop interfering in the worst tone imaginable. I was gobsmacked. The woman waiting for her husband to try on clothes could believe the audacity of her. 

Rule one of retail: Dont go in to the business if you have a really quick temper. 

2. I miss Cheltenham. 

This time last year I really didnt want to go back, which is weird because i'm now hankering to go back to Cheltenham so bad. Literally because I miss the vibe of the place so bad. I miss Pitville park and Hannah, Ryan and Emily a hell of a lot. I went up at the end of June to see a friend but didn't get to see a lot of Cheltenham which makes me super sad. The only thing is that because next year will need a lot of attention, I wont get to come home a lot, so I wont get to see Cathy a hell of a lot which makes me sad. I also wont get to see my little slag, Jenny. Honestly, I also miss being at uni. I miss going to gigs and seeing some of the POM's perform. Im pretty stoked for this year as i'm going to be helping out with putting the gigs on for the ALT music society,  I get to put on my own event with a few of my favourite people and I already have a few ideas for both.

3. Homeware shopping is the most fun ive had since coming back. 

I wish this was a joke, seriously. Im not though. When i go back to university in September, I will be moving into a flat with Hannah and Emily and I decided to get all new stuff! So that means new duvet covers, new plate patterns, new glasses everything! Im turning into an old dear at the ripe old age of 22. 

Thats it for now I think. 

TTYL,

Kirst x

Dear stranger..

Hello.

I had a pretty awful day at work the other day so the only thing I could think of to cheer myself up was to have a wander around Waterstones. I wasnt really intending to buy anything as I didnt really need a new book. I literally have just decided to re-read the Game of Thrones series. 

I was just about to walk out of the store when I spotted a book called "Dear Stranger"

"Dear Stranger" is a book of letters from different people that are signed to Penguin Publishers. It includes inspirational letters to imagined strangers about different

Although the book cost me £12.99 which is a good fiver more than books usually cost, they donate £3.00 to "Mind" a mental health charity. They provide advice and support to people who suffer from a number of mental health issues. They also do their best to raise awareness for this problem. 

So far, since I bought the books, i've read 3 letters from various authors and tv personalities including Fiona Phillips, Rachael Joyce and Francesca Martinez. My favourite letter so far has to be from Francesca Martinez simply because I could relate to it the most. 

"A pain-free life doesnt exist. And if thats what you're after, try not to love. Because love will always come to an end and that end will hurt. When my grandma died, I wept for weeks. Misery wrapped me in its cold arms and there I stayed. Then, it dawned on me that I was devastated simply because I loved her. Had I not loved her, I would not have shaken with tears. I mourned her because she meant so much to me. That pain would have been less if she had been less loving, less giving, less affectionate And I realised that, in some way, the grief was the price to pay for love"

Can you see why this letter is my favourite now? obviously this is only a paragraph from the whole letter but its incredible how much this letter could mean to someone whose feeling a bit down, or has just lost someone, or going through something at the moment. 

Another letter I have read isnt really a letter I've read which makes me even the slightest bit happy is by Nicholas Allen who drew a comic strip of what made him happy at different stages of his life. I suppose thinking of things that make you happy or used to make you happy at stages of your life can be quite therapeutic. I know whenever I go over things that used to make me happy, a tiny smile seems to form on my face. Things like memories from freshers, songs from way back when, photos from when you had to use a disposable camera rather than taking a picture of your phone.

There are several things that make me happy when im feeling down.

The Wanted: I know what people are thinking. "oh wow, what even was she thinking being into a boyband??" Trust me, now ive grown up a bit Ive kind of grown out of it, but at the time, there was nothing better than being at one of their gigs, or buying on of their songs. One of my favourite memories was going to one of their radio tours and meeting my favourite. He wrote on my boobs, and kind of prevented little fangirls from pushing me over! I specifically remember him saying "You're welsh? You dont sound very welsh"

This band does have more significance than me just having a good time at one of their gigs. It just so happens that I met two of my best friends at one of their gigs. Hannah and Shannon. In fact, its our 3 year anniversary this Saturday. 

Fusion festival - 2013.

I also mentioned songs bringing back memories and a small smile forming on my very grumpy mug. Theres about 3 songs that I cant listen to without getting s bit sad. These would be:

1. I Dont Care - Icona Pop
2. Dont Go - Wretch 32
3. We Own The Night - The Wanted.

I think thats enough rambling for one blog post.

I hope you enjoyed this!

Honestly, if youve enjoyed this, I recommend you go and buy the book. 

TTYL,

Kirst x

Ten things im trying to accept.

Hello.

Told you i'd be back with a new blog post over the weekend, didn't I?

I feel like this blog is slowly turning into one of those self help blogs and i'm not sure i'm ok with that. However, this is just because its coming to the end of the semester, and technically this is meant to be a blog about university.

Anyway, I thought i'd do a blog post about some things i'm currently trying to accept about life.

1. Not everything is going to go your way. 
2. Not every guy is going to like you. You just have to find a guy that likes you for you.
3. Its ok sometimes to think about yourself. If you think you deserve a new pair of £40 Topshop jeans, then just do it. God knows that a pretty new pair of jeans makes me so happy.
4. People will talk about you. Whether its good things or bad things. Thats life and thats ok. It doesn't mean they love you any less. 
5. People have good days and bad days. Just because someone has snapped at you, doesn't mean its your fault. They could just be having an awful day. You've just got to try and be there. They may need a friend more than you need to not be shouted at. Similarly, if someone does go at you for no reason whatsoever, 8 times out of 10, the reasons aren't your fault. 
6. Don't ever change for anyone. If someone is going to love you, it should be for you, not for someone who they think you are.
7. There is nothing better than staying in bed, listening to cheesy music with a cup of tea and a good book. 
8. Its not your job to keep people happy. Trust me, its impossible. Look after yourself before anyone else.
9. Its completely fine to disagree with someone. If you dont agree with someones opinion of something, don't feel like you should stay quiet about it. If you feel the need to disagree, then do it!!!
10. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. So what if you've gained an extra couple of pounds? What does it matter that you've had a break out on your forehead? This doesn't make you any less beautiful and you should NEVER let anyone tell you any different. Being told you aren't beautiful doesn't make you an awful person, it makes the other person awful.

Thats it.

TTYL,

Kirst x

5000 reads and finishing second year.

Whats up, what up, what uppppppp!

This blog post is in aid of reaching 5000 reads, but also because after Thursday my second year will finally be done. 

I'm not going to lie, this year has been hard. 

Work wise, and living wise. 

I've always been told "second year is the hardest, you need to knuckle down and get working"

I never took it seriously, so obviously i'm sat here now, lacking the motivation to even start my last assignment. So what did I decide to do? Reminisce on the past year.

Obviously ive just said the work load was ridiculous and its also made me hate the human race more than anyone can imagine. However, it's also made me love it a bit more. Contradictory, I know. 

Last year, Emily, Ellie and I got told that people thought we hated everyone because we never spoke to anyone. God knows thats changed.

I think this is the first year of my entire life where i've actually made an effort to talk to people that im surrounded by and I'm quite proud of that fact. Not only have I met some absolutely fantastic people this year, I can now class a select few of them as good friends. I'm hoping if those people read this, they'll realise that i'm on about them.

I also became a part of a society, which I actually really enjoy. I've had the chance to listen and to get to know some of the most amazing musicians. 

Although I can't wait to get away from Cheltenham for the summer, I'm gonna miss my Chelt family so much. Im also very eager to move into my new flat next year. 

I think we already have some pretty sweet ideas, and I GET A DOUBLE BED! 

Next year is going to be my last year in university. 

How mad is that?

I can honestly remember the days where:

1. I visited the university for my applicant day.  That was the first day I met Emily.
2. I actually got into university. I screamed the house down.
3. I moved in. 

Its been such a weird couple of years, and i'm still not sure how I feel about them. Obviously I've met some of the most lovely people, grown as a person and learn to become at least a tiny bit independent. But a part of me still wonders what I would be doing if I never came to uni, if I never moved to Cheltenham. Would I be the person I am now?

Guess I'll never find out. 

Thats is for now.

My next post will more than likely be on the weekend to tell you about my birthday!

TTYL, 

Kirst x

Im getting old.

Hey :-)

I need to stop going doing this.

By doing this, I do mean deciding to start an essay then remembering I have a blog.

The other day whilst walking home from propaganda I realised that in two thursdays time I'm going to be 22. This is terrifying for me.

22 is that age where you actually have to start acting like an adult and I realise that I don't actually do that because although I should be in that stage where i'm looking for somewhere to live on my own, with a full time job and looking to be in a relationship rather than just messing around because thats what other 22 year olds do, right?

I was thinking, even if im not looking to live on my own, if im not in a full time job, and im not ready to be a girlfriend.. What should I be doing?

Thats what birthday's are about, i'm pretty sure. realising that things should change from last year, because you're now a year older. 

I could go on about how I'm going to stop drinking so much. How i'm going to start eating a healthy, balanced diet. How i'm gonna start to improve my brain because lets be real, that DEFINITELY needs improving. But lets be real here, how many times have I said that and not done it.

I still drink just as much, i'm never going to stop eating shit while i'm in uni and my brain is going to stay just as silly. So what can I do?

The age old question, how can I improve myself?

I could go on to say my usual things, that make me look like Im extremely hard on myself, these ones:

1. Im going to stop judging people
2. How i'm going to try to be nicer
3. How i'm going to do more for other people, rather than myself.

Honestly, these ones are the first ones that came to mind, just because they're probably the easiest. Ive decided that these ones are probably more worth my time and effort.

• Stop being a mug, especially this month. As some of you know, May is deadline month. All I can say is that I am suffering. So bad. I am hardly sleeping, being in uni nearly every day, along with work, so my sleeping pattern, for less of a better phrase, is fucked and my diet is pathetic. I have literally no energy for nothing, so when I have time to myself, I need it. I need to learn the word no is what im trying to say.
• I need to start looking after myself better.  From the last paragraph you read, clearly im not good at this. So over the summer, im going to join the gym and just try to start being healthy. I also need to start looking after my head aswell. Without sounding like a complete attention whore, I keep having panic attacks whilst in clubs. I almost had one on Thursday, which is mainly why I left at 1:30am.. 
• I also need to tell people when I feel they're wrong. Recently, I have come to realise that I'm made out to be the douchebag in quite a few situations. I need to start arguing my case rather than let people walk all over me. 

I think thats it for now.

Hope you enjoyed this little piece of procrastination.

Hope a good week. :-)

TTYL,

Kirst x

P.S.. This picture has absolutely nothing to do with the post but at the moment, this is exactly how im feeling. Because apparently its not ok for me to judge guys on how good I think they look, but its ok for them to stare at my boobs during a conversation with me. 

:You go Lisa Kudrow.